"The more important you make people feel, the more they will respond to you."
Les Giblin
"To the other person, he is as imprtant to himself as you are to yourself.
Who of us wants to br talked down too? Your friend does not want to be taled down too either.
Listen to them - carefully
Refusal to truly listen to somebody is the surest way to alienate them.
Don't think ahead about what you will say next. Stop. Listen. Bide your time When you fully understand their message, comment on it.
Pause before you speak
Pausing before you reply gives the impression you are thinking about what you reply in return. That forethought will be appreciated.
Applaud and compliment their successes.
Infact tell other people of these successes. Third person complements have more power. They are said with meaning and are not some form of meaningless conversation fluff and filler.
Use their names and pictures as often as possible
A persons name is to them the most important word in the whole universe. Bill Farley was a boy who lost his father in high school and lost his father as a child.Yet he knew the power of a person's name. He learned to call 50,000 people by theiir first name. This ability helped Franklin D. Rooservelt into the Whitehouse. Farley would travel through an area get to know people and then write them a letter, addressed to thei first name, when a campain meeting was due. People felt flattered that they were remembered. Their name was the most important word in the world and it was remembered.
Speak in terms of the listener
Use YOU, YOUR not I, me, mine.
Acknowledge People Who Are Waiting For You
A simple "sorry for the delay, I will be witjh you as soon as I can" shows you recognise a person's value. Imagine how you would feel stitting in an office for an hour totaly ignored - not nice is it?
Pay attention to everyone in a group
If your a public speaker talk to one person in the group, then another, dont just wave your head routinely over the crowd. A small group? Do the same. That way everynoe feels part of the conversation.
Who of us wants to br talked down too? Your friend does not want to be taled down too either.
Listen to them - carefully
Refusal to truly listen to somebody is the surest way to alienate them.
Don't think ahead about what you will say next. Stop. Listen. Bide your time When you fully understand their message, comment on it.
Pause before you speak
Pausing before you reply gives the impression you are thinking about what you reply in return. That forethought will be appreciated.
Applaud and compliment their successes.
Infact tell other people of these successes. Third person complements have more power. They are said with meaning and are not some form of meaningless conversation fluff and filler.
Use their names and pictures as often as possible
A persons name is to them the most important word in the whole universe. Bill Farley was a boy who lost his father in high school and lost his father as a child.Yet he knew the power of a person's name. He learned to call 50,000 people by theiir first name. This ability helped Franklin D. Rooservelt into the Whitehouse. Farley would travel through an area get to know people and then write them a letter, addressed to thei first name, when a campain meeting was due. People felt flattered that they were remembered. Their name was the most important word in the world and it was remembered.
Speak in terms of the listener
Use YOU, YOUR not I, me, mine.
Acknowledge People Who Are Waiting For You
A simple "sorry for the delay, I will be witjh you as soon as I can" shows you recognise a person's value. Imagine how you would feel stitting in an office for an hour totaly ignored - not nice is it?
Pay attention to everyone in a group
If your a public speaker talk to one person in the group, then another, dont just wave your head routinely over the crowd. A small group? Do the same. That way everynoe feels part of the conversation.
